I couldn't keep all the advice to myself, so the next few posts will be coming from her point of view, starting with her top five tips for navigating life as a Coach's Wife.
Learn what your coach needs from you. Ask him. Tell your coach what you need from him. You have to communicate. Don’t wait until the walls start to crumble. Be proactive. You MUST protect your marriage and fight for it! When you are married to a man with passion like a coach’s – it can consume him. Sometimes, he may need your help to keep perspective on things.
“Mesh” it all together.
For us, Ryan is never able to “leave” his job behind. I am not able to do it very well either, as I teach online classes year round, along with my face-to-face courses during regular semesters. We found that we needed to set some boundaries, but at the same time, merge it all. The girls and I go on many recruiting trips with Ryan. We go on road trips to away games. We spend time at the field after practice. This isn’t always “easy” for either side. Yet, it is truly the best of both worlds. We are always involved, and this helps keep us all from drifting to our own separate worlds, isolating ourselves!
Make time for time together.
Be sure to schedule times of refreshment with your spouse. You have to get away together. Yes, I admit, often times our time away is when I go on recruiting trips with him. We like the drive time to talk and spend time as just us. One of our biggest goals is to enjoy each other and truly want to spend time with one another so that we’re not left wondering how to act after the kids leave home. That means staying connected now – for ourselves and our kids!
Take care of yourself physically.
Ryan and I started CrossFit about four years ago as a way to start our day together and do something good for our body. Now, I do it for my girls. I want them to run, lift, and be strong “like a girl.” Keep in mind that once again, this current “season” of my life affords me the ability to get up early before the girls’ day starts. There was a time when our girls were babies or toddlers that I couldn’t do this. During that season, it was the tread-climber in the basement.
Nourish yourself spiritually.
My faith and relationship with Jesus is my foundation. Everything else hinges on this, and if my spiritual life is lacking, everything else crumbles.